I have a problem with hypocrisy.
Growing up, I was taught of being civil. “If you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything.” This is what my Mother always say. What she really meant by that was, if you have nothing good to say to someone, who is NOT a family member or a very close friend, be mum about it!
My family (they can affirm or deny) are ruthless! We can be judgmental, bitchy, snarky and full of sass. Don’t get me wrong, we can be very kind, nice and sweet, caring and thoughtful too. It all depends on how we are treated.
When The Hubsy asked for my hand in marriage (yes, we are so old school!) the first thing that my Mother asked was, “Are you sure?” (party pooper alert!) When he stated that he was, my Mother continued, “She is a really nice girl. If you are kind to her, she is kinder. If you treat her well, she will treat you better. But if you cross her, she can be the DEVIL.” (Ladies and Gentlemen, my Mother!)
In a way, Mother was right. This is why I am always hesitant talking to new people, not because I was scared of them but mostly I was scared of what I might say. I have always been truthful because (again, Mother said, Honesty is the best policy! but..) mainly, why LIE? My life is an open book especially to anyone who wants to know it.
I guess some people loves small talk and though my job entails to do such thing, on personal note, I was never really good with small talk. I also have ADD/ADHD and gets bored with someone who talks about themselves endlessly and never wants to pass the ball to your court, if you know what I mean.
I love having FUN or talking about FUN stuff or anything FUNNY. If its too much dramz, I still can listen to that but I think you need to buy me a drink. And trust me, I am more sympathetic when I drink. (Question: How can I add laughing emoji here?)
I am NOT a big fan of Hypocrisy. I do not blend well with people who say one thing and do another. NOPE! Not a huge fan of those peeps!
When you say (or post something on SocMed) that you are a nice and sweet person but continue to rant and rave like a b*t#h, chances are, you are a b*t#h. Not that there’s anything wrong with being one but you just have to STOP yourself from confusing people. You just have to discontinue putting yourself on a different light.
That is called False Advertisement.
No one can say, I am kind. Because kindness is shared, therefore the other person can describe you as kind (when they felt it) but when you say, “I am kind.” that just shows how insensitive you are to others’ feelings. When you say, “I am kind.” do you feel that at the bottom of your heart you are kind? Do you feel that when you say you are kind, (at that exact moment) you somewhat envision yourself as Mother Teresa? Or that you deserve to be canonized to sainthood?
Do not get me wrong, it is okay to feel that you are kind. But do not tell me you are because I know who you are and I know how you act. And KIND will never be something I will describe you. Kind of bitchy, Yes! (insert laughing emoji!)
There is NOTHING wrong with being a bitch. Bitches rule! They say what they mean and mean what they say. They are truthful and sassy, okay they can be petty too but most of us have the tendency to be petty if given the circumstance. NOTHING is wrong with being a BITCH. If you are, embrace it. But do not tell people you are something else and do not underestimate their capacity (and capability) to smell a hypocrite.
I understand that some of us would like to be better people. I admire that in a person. I myself would like to be a better version of myself. It is our divine right to seek progression, but unless we are on that state, we should not label ourselves as KIND because kindness can only be described for you (by others) but not to yourself.
Because in a world where you can be anything, (give yourself a favor and..) BE YOURSELF!
(Coggeshall Farm – Bristol, Rhode Island)
Keep smiling y’all! Life is good! Xx